This piece of wisdom is going to be a little bit different than usual.
Homecoming '17; A Cinderella Story
Hi. I'm Delaney and I'm new to Trabuco Hills. I recently was dumped over text by a boy who I'd been dating for almost 2 months. I had been planning to ask him to homecoming and I had already made the poster and everything, so when I had been broken up with, I was pretty upset. I burned the poster (which was not the brightest idea, but whatever). Now, I know that this sounds like something you'd see in a movie about a teenage girl's "angsty teen" life, but in all seriousness, I burnt that poster to a crisp in the fire pit in my backyard with a handful of friends by my side. (Once again, not the brightest idea, but it seemed like the right decision at the time.) Shortly thereafter, I had to decide whether I was going to go to homecoming or not. I'll be honest, I didn't think I was going to go. When I was talking about it at school one day though, a couple of choir kids had invited me to go with them. Soooooooo, I made the choice to go with a lot of my new friends, most of which were bringing their dates, so I was still that one single girl in a large group of pals. I was really anxious about going stag to my first dance at my new high school, but I soon learned that I had made the right decision. I picked out a dress to wear that made ME happy, not one that I had to match with a boy's tie or corsage choice. I also bought myself MY OWN corsage because I was taking MYSELF to the dance. I hung out with my friends all night and didn't have to go to the moshpit at all which was amazing (because I can't dance and I love being a wallflower). And after the dance, we all went out to Denny's and I ate a whole combo meal by MYSELF. I felt super gorgeous that night (s/o to Chloe for being the real M.V.P. and coming over to help get me ready.) I felt so pretty at homecoming and I felt even more beautiful when I ate a whole lotta food at Denny's.
(Denny's please sponsor me and my Trabuco Hills Vocal Department family!)
The point of me sharing this was that I felt so proud that I didn't have to rely on going to the dance with a date to make me feel happy.The photo above is now my most liked photo on social media and it's of me and the corsage I had purchased for myself. I just want to let y'all know dating does not define you. My worth is not placed in what a teenage boy thinks of me. My worth is not whether he noticed me in the hallway or not. My worth is not placed in him. I'm better than that.
I don't need to depend on a boy to make myself complete. I complete myself. If I date anyone, it's because they compliment me. It's because we highlight the best parts about each other. I do not need to depend on him. I do not need him to survive. I am strong and independent.
You can do the same. You are strong. You are independent. You complete yourself. And if you don't feel that way right now, maybe take a break and reconsider how you're living right now. Whether you need to meditate and concentrate or you need to put on some Beyoncé and jam, you need to understand that you were made wonderfully and you don't need anyone else to complete you.
That's it for today my wonderful humans.
Much Love,
Delaney Miller